it’s important to remind ourselves why we impose restrictions. Maybe it’s because we know it will make them a better adult, do better at school, or sleep better. Perhaps it’s simply ‘I love you too much to allow you to behave like that’ or ‘I respect you too much to allow you to do what you want or have what you want right now (because it is not good for you’

Keep in mind that they are just doing what they need to do, so we forgive them for their behaviour and attitude – but also ourselves if we have a less than positive feeling towards them or have lost our temper.

I wrote this letter to make myself feel better

I do what I do with respect, love and I forgive you.

I know you think I’m hard on you,                                                                                                                                and I am,                                                                                                                                                                 so I can look back and feel respect, love and forgiveness.

I know that at times you hate me,                                                                                                                         and I don’t always like you,                                                                                                                                 don’t worry, I forgive with respect, love and forgiveness.

I know it hurts when I set limits,                                                                                                                         because it pains me too,                                                                                                                                         but I love you, so I guide you with respect, love and forgiveness.

I know that you want me to go away,                                                                                                                    and sometimes I do too,                                                                                                                                             I hold on to the end with respect, love and forgiveness.

I know you love me,                                                                                                                                                 as I do you,                                                                                                                                                             my love declaration is respect, love and forgiveness.

This is my letter to make myself feel better.

Written by Mette Theilmann