Get kids to listen without threats…

We have all been there where we are in a hurry, tired or desperate and just don’t have the energy to keep asking politely; we need our kids to do things and get a move on and they don’t want to. So we grab what is always at hand: ‘threats’. But when we use threats and try to control in fact we have lost all control!
We have opted to use fear over respect. A threat is not respectful but a misuse of our adult power. It might work in the short term because our anger, yelling and aggression get them out the door or get them to obey this time, righ...