Choose your battles, IGNORE the rest

Often I hear parents saying that they are afraid to use the tool ‘ignoring’ because they have been told that ignoring a child can cause long lasting damage. And of course if we do it the ‘wrong’ way ignoring a child can be hurtful and have a negative impact on a child’s well-being and also on our relationship with the child. So we need to be clear that we are ignoring behaviour, NOT the child. If we aim to ignore the unwanted behaviour in order to diminish it we send a strong signal that we are wiling to connect with our child once the behaviou...