+44(0)7756918126 mette@mettetheilmann.com
Parent & Family Impact Coach

Thank you for visiting my website; I look forward to connecting with you when you feel ready.

 

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My motto: We have no rights over our kids – only obligations and responsibilities.

It is our ‘job’ to raise our kids to become independent and responsible for themselves, the environment and others. But we can only do this if we have ‘earned’ the right to do so through ongoing connection and relationship building with our children that enables us to work together as a team.

Welcome

I am an experienced and qualified life coach. My qualifications include:

Social Psychology Degree

Parent, Family & Youth Coach with the Coaching Academy of London

Level 3 City & Guilds “Working with Parents”

Webster Stratton Group Leader
Family Link Parent Facilitator
Degree in Nutrition
NLP practitioner

a bit about me

I am originally from DenmarkI’ve been married to an Irishman for 26 years and together we have three children aged 18, 20 and 22. As a family we have previously lived in Brussels, China and London and we currently live between Denmark, Ireland and the UK.

How my business has developed

I set up ParentingSuccess Coaching Ltd in 2006 to follow my passion for helping people with their parenting and life skills. I sold the company in 2019 when we made the decision as a family to spend more time in Denmark and Ireland. I established the Mette Theilmann brand in September of 2019.

Real Networking

I am the co-founder, together with my amazing business partner Linda Hopkins, of Real Networking which we set up in 2017. At Real Networking we connect self-employed business owners and offer a space to meet like-minded people.  Real Networking is a supportive group where we meet regularly to connect, collaborate, inspire, learn and have fun. CLICK here to read more

Areas I cover

Corporate Parenting
Family, Life & Work Integration

Parents today, particularly working parents, are under more pressure than ever. This pressure can often leave parents confused, frustrated and stressed, that will have a  knock on effect on your children’s well-being and overall family and work life balance

I support working parents switching from work mode into family life – from employee to mum or dad, and vice versa. This will help them maintain their connection to home and still perform well at work.

By working closely with parents (or your company) I can help create a more harmonious home, where parents feel more in charge of overall life.

Relocation/international family move

Are you moving your employee and family overseas? If the move has been properly planned and supported it is likely to have less of a negative effect on each family member. If the family adapts well to the move and things at home are balanced and running smoothly your employee is much more likely to settle well into his/her new role.

Work, life balance

Support your employees to create a family, work & life system that is tailored to their individual situation and values.

Adjusting to a new executive position in the company

Moving up in a company is an exciting and rewarding opportunity but also comes with new pressures and expectations for the employee and his/her family. I support your employees creating a work, life and family system that works for their situation and individual values. A healthy relationship between family and work enables your employees to focus and enjoy their work knowing that home is more harmonious.

ONline parenting workshops
Interaction and connection with like-minded parents

For the last 12 years I have been running parenting workshops in schools, corporations, my office and various organisations.

I am now very excited to have put all my experiences and insight into online workshops that still offer interaction and connection with like-minded parents.

Book a workshop: (during the lockdown all my workshops are free for private parents to attend, just book the one you wish below)

Free – The Power of Effective Ignoring – 27th May 2020

Free – Family Cooperation & Team Work – 29th May 2020

Free  – Say no successfully with a clear conscience – 12th June 2020

Proud Parenting – 28th August 2020

Free – The Power of Effective Ignoring – 9th September 2020

Parents Parenting as a Team – 18th September  2020

Family, Life & Work Balance – 7th October 2020

 

One to One Coaching
How does coaching work?

I can offer you individual/couples support in overcoming challenges within your family. In a safe and non-judgmental environment I will create a space for you to explore what is going on in your family life.  In the sessions we will focus on ‘looking forward’, setting achievable and realistic goals for the future. I also offer online coaching.

What to expect from parent coaching

I believe that everyone is capable of working things out for themselves. After all, we know our children and ourselves better than anyone else.  However, we might not always have the time, energy or inspiration to do so without a little help.

What parents have said about my work

“Mette conducted interactive parenting events for the Parents of Year 10 boys. They were run in an informative, helpful and professional way St. James’s Boy School Ashford Lorraine Soares – Academic Director

 “Mette is a wonderful presenter who clearly knows her stuff” – Bishopsgate School Egham, Dan Boorman – Deputy Headmaster

My coaching philosophy

The two best things you can do for your children are: Looking after yourself; if you are ok the family will be ok and parent as a team with your partner!

Connect before correct! As parents we will always have to deal with our kids’ behaviour at some stage. But this will become so much easier if our starting point is closeness and trust instead of distance and hostility.

“No one said that parenting was going to be easy!”

By attending parent coaching I can’t guarantee that your family struggles and battles will go away. But I CAN guarantee that you will walk away with solutions that will fit your individual family life.

There is no ‘right way’ of parenting – only the  right way for YOU and your family:

All families are unique and all family members are individual. Together we will explore a parenting style that works for you and fits your family values and situation.

“The weak don’t ask for help so stay weak…asking for help is a sign of strength, growth and change” – John Wooden

Parent Coaching is ‘Time Out’ for you, to invest in your family’s future.

We are our kids strongest role model:

With our behaviour, attitude and way of thinking we set the scene at home. I help you to understand how your kids see, feel and hear you in order to create an atmosphere that you are happy for your kids to copy!

Other topics I cover:

Positive parenting during separation

Parenting can be tough, but parenting before, during and after a separation brings parenting to a whole different level. Separation is one of the most stressful things that a family can go through and often causes friction between you, your children, other family members or friends. Having worked very closely with family solicitors for the last 3 years I can support you and your family through this challenging time with the least negative impact. 

Connect instead of correct

Connection is at the heart of all good parenting.  You might feel that due to too many conflicts and battles in your home you have lost the ‘connection’ or positive relationship with your kids, your partner and yourself. Through coaching I help you connect with your family through the 4 simple but powerful Rs: Rules, Routine, Responsibilities & Relationship. Together these will help you restore the balance when family life has got a bit out of control. 

Managing your own (and family) health

Managing your / your family’s health & well-being can seem like a mammoth task at times. And especially in this information age where we are bombarded with daily, often conflicting, advice about what we should and shouldn’t do in order to stay healthy, happy and well. It can be so confusing to know what to do and where to start. Things Take Time. Managing a healthy lifestyle does take a bit of effort. Particularly in the beginning when we might have to change old habits in order to create new ones. I will help guide you on a new journey towards a healthier lifestyle that suits you, and above all is manageable, with a structure to help you succeed. I will support you to set achievable and realistic goals and explore what is holding you back and why. And then the fun starts: how to get there, with lots of practical steps, new fun food recipes and a change of mindset.

 

Special Needs Children

Sometimes family life doesn’t work out the way we thought it would and have planned. I can for sure talk about myself. I never ‘planned’ to have special needs children and when I did I struggled.

Let’s face it, SEN parents are awesome!
If you are a parent of a child with any special needs then I am here to support you with our 3 step guide to SEN parenting.

1.     Relationships & Connection: depending on the need your child it can sometimes be hard to play, interact or have time to spend quality time with our child.  I help you find ‘your thing’ that will glue you together and for a little while forget the struggles and just focus on connecting as parent and child!  Furthermore, you are now a ‘special needs family’, by this I mean when one family member struggles and have challenges the family as a whole is effect and therefor equally need attention and support to feel hear, understood and function under the given circumstances.

2.     Let go of what is ‘normal and ‘should be’: use your common sense and parenting instinct. When I had children with special needs I had to let go of all that was ‘normal’ and ‘should be’ and start being a bit flexible in my way of doing, dreaming and hoping! Let me help you see your situation for what it is and set realistic and positive expectation to your self and each family member!

3.     Stay positive: Try not to be affected by all the things your child cannot do and might never will do – but instead focus on all that he/she CAN do. Our children are SO interesting and unique, once we allow this to shine through we can truly enjoy them and allow them to be who they are meant to be!

Parenting as a Team

Most parents have argued at some point over how to raise their children. This is normal because we all bring different values, backgrounds and expectations to the relationship. These differences can often cause tension and frustration between parents. It is ok to have different views and it is ok to agree to disagree. But it is NOT ok to involve the children, bring the tension into the home or make them sit in the middle of adult conflicts.  These disagreements are not good for the children to experience,  they might start viewing themselves as the cause of the arguments, blaming themselves or start using the situation as a ‘tool’ to get what they want. Through coaching I support you to put forward your frustrations in a measured way, listen to each other’s views, set joint agreed goals and move forward together in a way that you are both comfortable with that suits your family life.

Angry feelings that can hold you back from being the parent you want to be

When we lose our temper, yell or tell our kids off we might feel stronger in the moment but essentially we have given away our power!  We have ‘lost it’! Through coaching we will look at how we can maintain control of our own feelings and behaviour (we can’t and shouldn’t control anyone other than ourselves) and respond in a measured (not impulsive) way whereby we can be proud of ourselves and act as a good role-model.

Creating time for yourself

Family life gets busy and it is so easy to put ourselves at the bottom of the ‘care’ list and attend to others’ needs first. But we might be at risk of running ourselves down which means we have less energy and time to attend to our family when they really need us. I help you to create time and tools that will energise you and make you feel more than ‘just’ being mum or dad: Self-care is the best care, not a luxury!

Say NO and set effective limits

Consequences can be so hard to implement when we have a defiant child and we are living life at 100 miles an hour. We might end up reacting aggressively or unfairly which makes us feel guilty later on, or stop us from saying NO altogether for fear of further battles and difficult feelings to manage. But saying NO and setting limits effectively is a sign of love. You are telling your child, ‘I love you too much to behave like that!’, ‘You are worthy of my time and discipline!’ and so on. Being able to say NO and set limits in an appropriate way makes us safe company to be with and creates a sense of safety and order in your home.

Helping families abroad

It can be an amazing experience to live abroad with your children. To learn a different culture and language can be an opportunity to teach our kids so many valuable things about life, people, culture and languages. But it also comes with challenges. If you and your partner also have different cultural backgrounds and languages then it might need a bit of planning. 

 You are your kids biggest role model if you enjoy the processleading up to your move abroad, it is likely that your children will be positive about it too. The years spent overseas should be an invaluable and fulfilling experience for all family members, and this is more likely to happen if you communicate well about the changes to come, plan ahead and work together.

Cultural Family life

Furthermore, I offer support to families where mum and dad have different nationalities and may even be living in an Expat environment. Kids are amazing and can learn and adapt to so much as long as they feel safe and prepared.

I have lived in Belgium, China and London with my 3 kids. They speak English to their Dad and Danish to me. In Brussels they went to a Belgian school and spoke French. In China they went to a Chinese school and spoke Mandarin. They have a strong cultural identity with both my husband’s country and mine, and with the one they live in. 

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Contact Mette

 

Email:                    mette@mettetheilmann.com

UK tel:                   +44 (0)7756 918126

DK tel:                   +45 5027 8932

Eire tel:                 + TBC

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